You’d be amazed at how many mums have asked me for advice about periods. (Or maybe you wouldn’t. Getting the ‘period talk‘ right is a preoccupation of many of us.) And the number one question I get asked the most is, “Which period undies are the best?”
I think my reputation for trying all the period undies goes before me. Ha!
But the fact is, my daughters wear them and I have also personally tried all of the undies and I do have a favourite. I know exactly which period undies are the best.
And those period undies are Modibodi – by a country mile.
So that was a massive spoiler alert!
Brands I’ve used
For the record, the other brands I have used (and still do use Bonds, Libra and Thinx) are: Bonds Bloody Comfy Undies, Thinx, Rudie, Orgaknix, Scarlet, Love Luna and the new Libra period undies (which I only purchased to try out for this article).
Now, I’ll mention that I am an affiliate of Modibodi (you can read about how that works here). But don’t think for a minute that I’m recommending them to you because I get a little earner (at no extra cost to you) if you buy a pair.
No way, that’s not my style at all. I’m an affiliate of Modibodi because I believe in the brand so much that I stopped being an affiliate for any other company. Because Modibodi are the only period pants I want to recommend.
Read this too: What’s in our first period kit and some thoughts about starting
Putting period undies to the test: four criteria
I’ve been using period undies off and on for years and only Modibodi feel completely leak-secure. Bonds Bloody Comfy Undies are a close second in the ‘no leaks’ test. Thinx aren’t bad either.
Most of the brands aren’t too bad, except I really can’t recommend the undies sold by Rudie. Wearing them felt like I may as well have been in my regular knickers. Which is weird because their eco pads are very good!
But Modibodi have never once let me down and they are the period undies my girls and I have been wearing for the longest.
Bonds may have come up with the worst slogan ever for period undies, but worse still is they don’t even deliver. Bonds Bloody Comfy Undies are not bloody comfy at all. In fact, they feel a lot like you’re wearing a nappy. They even have that ‘hang’ look about them when ‘full’ – like a toddler nappy an hour after their post-lunch bottle. You know the hang.
On the other hand, Modibodi undies feel sleek and huggy and nice. Period undies by default are quite a ‘firm’ fit, but Modibodi have plenty of stretch in them to stop them feeling too snug. They also don’t ‘bulk up’ the pad area, rather their no-leaks capabilities seem to stem from their layers, not absorbent bulk.
Orgaknix are another brand I would recommend for comfort, though they haven’t performed as well for me as Modis on the very-important no-leakage test. Thinkx and Scarlet are also pretty comfy and discreet.
3. Clean and dry
I haven’t found any difference in cleaning any of the brands I’ve tried. All are easy to rinse out until water is clear and then wash with your normal wash and dry on the line in the sun.
Technically, no period undies dry ‘quickly’ but Modibodi do seem to dry a lot faster than most. Both Bonds Bloody Comfy Undies and Thinx seem to take a millennium to feel completely dry. Other brands are reasonable, but just remember that any pair of period undies will need a good amount of time on the line to dry completely.
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Many people avoid period undies because they’re worried they will smell. So when you’re trying to work out which period undies are the best, smell is a very important factor.
Modibodi don’t smell. Well, not that I noticed anyway. God, I hope they don’t smell! For the record, no one has ever said anything. Important to note that.
I don’t think any of the period undies I’ve tried smell in the way that people worry they well. So that should be very comforting to hear.
I will say, though, that a few of the brands develop a strange odour that lingers even after washing. I’ll stress that it’s not a particularly unpleasant odour, but it is a bit metallic or something. Maybe something to do with the iron in period blood lingering or some such?
You can’t smell this smell unless you stick your nose right in there, so I don’t worry too much about it. But just to note that the period undies I have found to be the worst for this phenomenon are Love Luna , Scarlet and Libra. I’ve only had the Libra pair for one period and they already have ‘the smell’.
Get yourself a pair of Modibodi
So, there you go, my answer to “which period undies are the best?’ is a resounding: Modibodi. If you want further information about why they’re so good, click here.
If you head over to get yourself a few pairs, keep in mind that you can get 10% off your first order if you sign up for their newsletter. So sign up for that before you shop! Their sign up box should pop up when you click on the site.
Final words from me are to check out a few different brands of period undies and see if they’re right for you and your girls. Even if you don’t use them full time, they are fabulous for wearing in he lead up to expecting a period (which I often do), and for night time wear for cup or tampon users (which is how I mostly use them), or as ‘peace of mind’ for pad users. The more peace of mind we can give our girls when they start their period, the better, right!?
Feature image courtesy of Modibodi; swirly skirt by Nina Mercado
Here’s the thing, my darling kiddos. You definitely do need to do something to make your mum feel better. Parenting is a bloody frustrating gig. No one does what they say they’ll do, when they said they’d do it. “In a minute” is the phrase a mother is most likely to hear (especially, help me, this particular mother). It’s a lot to get through day after day and as a result sometimes I don’t feel very good at all.
Many times when you think I’m angry, you’re just misinterpreting my frustration. I’m not angry with you, I’m frustrated in general. Yes, there’s a big difference.
Anger is generally a flash-in-the-pan, heated emotion. Frustration, on the other hand, is a low-simmering pot of irritation.
The reason I’m telling you about how slow-burning frustration is because sometimes I leave it on the simmer for too long and it spills over into anger. That’s when you notice me. When things boil over, you don’t notice that I’ve quietly been simmering away for weeks, months, years all along.
I keep telling you, I’m only human
I’m pretty sure you’d feel just as frustrated as me if you had to constantly beat your head against a brick wall, too. You’d be feeling frustrated and, just as importantly, you’d be feeling hurt.
I want you to know that my frustration is accompanied by a lot of hurt, just like yours would be.
It’s not exactly physical pain (although, sometimes, it sure feels like it could be). Rather, it’s the hurt you cause me when you don’t listen, don’t act, don’t seem to care, and – probably the worst – don’t even notice.
You know I’m a mum who tries not to nag. But there’s a flip side to not being a nagger. That flip side is being a martyr.
It seems that if I don’t nag you repeatedly to do the things, the things don’t get done. Or, rather, you kids don’t do the things, but the things still need doing, so guess who does them?
Yup, the family fairy does them.
And that poor fairy is so frustrated with having to be the one nine times out of ten. She’s frustrated AF. In fact, she’s one hellava f*cking frustrated family fairy.
Just look after the family fairy for me
So here’s an easy way to make your mum feel better: look after the family fairy.
As often as you can, pick up the things, clean up the things, and wipe down the things. Then do the thing you’re asked to do, when you’re asked to do it. Straightaway. Not in a blessed minute.
And notice the fairy, too. Because she’s not a myth – she really does exist and she works incredibly hard every darn day to make a nice life for you. So please, look after her.
Such a simple act that will make your mum feel better isn’t too much to ask, is it?
Bonus way to make your mum feel better
There’s a bonus round here. I’ll give you another easy way to make your mum feel better for free: say thank you to the family fairy.
Not every-once-in-a-while, but every day. Maybe more than once a day, if you can manage it.
Expressing gratitude to the people we love for doing things for us builds stronger relationships and, believe me, reduces everyday frustration. I don’t even need to click through to the science on that one. I can tell you for a fact that a simple thank you makes me feel better about EVERYTHING. Such a tiny reward for all the hard work I put in, but surprisingly, it’s enough.
A thank you is enough.
So there you go. Two things to help you help your mum feel better. Do what you’re asked to do when you’re asked to do it, and say thanks to me for doing all the other things I don’t ask you about at all.
Believe me, that’s A LOT of other things. Surely not so hard to be a little bit grateful for all that?
My eldest turning 17 made me feel like all of a sudden I was ‘running out of time’ to parent my kids into adulthood. What did they still need to know? What hadn’t I taught them yet? It was a moot point, of course. Teenagers would rather die than listen to their mother… but maybe, possibly, hopefully, one day. And so, ‘Dear Children’ was born.
Feature image by Fa Barboza; heart sign by Ryan ‘O’ Niel; crown by Jared Subia; flowers by by NordWood Themes
Don’t you love an easy-breezy recipe that’s also good for you? Me! I love those recipes! I especially love this low carb salmon burger recipe because the kids can make them. They’re really tasty and boy do they make a welcome change from chicken tenders.
Do your kids also inhale chicken tenders? I cannot keep up with the consumption. Lord help me, I used to make my own when the kids were younger (recipe here), but these days it’s a packet. Which I’m not a huge fan of, but needs must.
So salmon burgers, out of another packet, ready to go, can get in my trolley. I’ll mention that they have a number of random ingredients that aren’t really food. That matters to me, but sometimes I weigh up the convenience and advantages and I buy the weird ingredient numbers anyway. In this case, the massive advantage of getting more fish into the kids is the winner.
My son, who hates all vegetables, even at 17 years old, loves any kind of fish. And I’m just not a fish cooker. I mean, I try, I really do, but I can never quite trust my fish cooking. Are you like that? I’d love to be the person selecting fresh fish at the market in the morning and confidently cooking it up for lunch that day, but I’m not. So being able to make a low carb salmon burger is a definite yay moment.
A few more ideas for using these clever salmon burgers:
- Cook and cool, then slice into 1 cm think slices. Wrap into sushi.
- Serve with scrambled eggs for brekkie
- Cook them on the barbie
- Slice in half and put into a wrap with cream cheese, rocket and chilli sauce (so good!)
You can use a regular bun for these burgers, but using Burger Thins keeps the carb and cals down. Don’t skimp on the avo or salad and then it’s a really filling meal.
Super-easy low carb salmon burger
Makes 4 burgers
Takes 15 mins
Bakes 40 mins
400g Tassal Tassie salmon burgers
4 Burger Thins
Extra virgin olive oil (for cooking)
4 slices beetroot
4 slices tomato
Handful of lettuce leaves (or rocket or spinach or whatever greens you have on hand)
Grill or lightly fry Tassie Salmon Burgers for 10-12 minutes until cooked through.
Toast burger buns, top with Tassie Salmon patty, avocado and salad ingredients.
That’s it! Serve straightaway hot, but it’s also really nice cold in the lunchbox. Get the kids to make one in the morning before school, wrap in foil and into the bag it goes.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve barely come up for air since having the kids. It’s relentless! Every day is just packed with the doing of it all. We are so consumed with everyday busyness of raising kids, that there is little time left over to think about the big picture. The things we need to focus on to invest in our kids’ future.
Of course, plenty of the everyday stuff we do will benefit them for life. It’s just nice to take a moment to streamline things. To make sure that our daily life with the kids is putting us on track to where we want them (and us!) to be in future.
Here are 6 things I reckon we ought to be giving a lot more thought to.
This one is important too: 10 things parents do that really matters to kids
6 ways to invest in our kids’ future
1. Kick-start their investment portfolio
We have Stockspot investments for all three kids. These were opened quick-smart after the eye-opening power of compound interest was revealed to me several years ago. Every month we delay starting an investment strategy for our kids makes a big difference to the nest egg we are building for them.
A little each month that we will pretend we never had and… huge returns compared to putting it in the bank (or, gulp, frittering it away). In other words: start today. Start now. We use Stockspot because they don’t charge fees for kids’ accounts – there are other ETF portfolio managers who do the same. Shop around and find something that suits you. Just don’t delay doing it!
2. Find their exercise sweet spot
Not every kid is into sports and it can be hard to get a non-sporty kid to stay active. The thing is, we need to keep at it. Especially now the kids are getting older and are less inclined to play tag or kick a ball around with friends during and after school. Instead, we are more likely to find them hunched over a screen. Our kids need to move and we need to ensure they keep trying to find something (or preferably somethings) they can do regularly and happily for life.
Think outside the box for this one. Traditional sports like netball, rugby, cricket or soccer aren’t for everyone. But maybe volleyball, basketball, softball, hockey, lacrosse or water polo are. Then there’s sports like martial arts, boxing, fencing, archery, tennis, canoeing, athletics, handball, cycling, gymnastics, rowing, skateboarding, surfing, rock climbing, diving… keep trying and eventually they will find a passion that keeps them active for life.
3. Think long-term for education
We’ve very much been a ‘next step’ kind of parent: we rarely really look beyond what comes next. So, when we were looking into preschools, we didn’t consider where they were a ‘feeder’ school for big school. Then the high school we pretty much decided because it was up the road and good.
I know a lot of other parents are much better at this than we are, but we are getting wiser now. We are talking about long-term interests for subject choices and starting to map out what that looks like for uni or TAFE, and possible exchange programs for the kids to experience more of the world. A rough guide to education, if you will. Fact is, we want be able to afford any and all of the options our kids’ choose (see ‘kick-start their investment portfolio’ above…).
4. Make a will
Do you have a will? We don’t have a will! I always figured that if we died, everything would be split evenly between the kids. And then it’s all just too gruesome to think about it any further than that.
Time to stop burying my head in the sand (no pun intended – gasp) and wo-man up and go get the will done. That way, we are fully in control of who executes our will (another pun, OMG) and, most importantly, who will care for our children if we die before they are 18. So yeah, a will is really, really important.
5. Educate them about food
As a person who has struggled with my weight for most of my adult life, this one is very important to me.
I am trying to instil in my kids a common sense approach to food and eating that will stay with them for life. I like Michael Pollan‘s sensible, “Eat food, not too much, mostly plants.”
For me, it’s about making good choices every day through instilling good habits, and eating as close to nature as possible. It’s about avoiding nonsense “foods” like soft drink and lollies. Good eating habits now are an investment in our kids’ future health.
6. Teach them interpersonal skills
Knowing how to get along well with others is one of the best investments you can make in your Future Adult Kids. Interpersonal skills will pave the way to happy relationships, good employment and excellent connections with others. Having healthy connections with others is actually one of the keys to a long, healthy life. So get onto it!
Do you often think about what your kids’ future will be like?
Feature image by Tyler Nix; money by Visual Stories; education by Siora Photography; food by Brooke Lark
It’s seriously hard to Michelle Obama it in and go high when your kid goes low, or is that just me? Nothing pushes my buttons quite like an ungrateful, privileged kid trying to tell me how the world works. Worse, an ungrateful, privileged kid who we have raised to be anything but ungrateful and privileged. Sigh.
Yet, here we are. The tween and teen years seem to bring out the self-righteous selfishness in everyone. It’s quite perplexing to see your otherwise sweet-natured kid suddenly become possessed by the devil. There’s an unhinged moment in every older kid’s day, each and every day, when they are basically certifiable.
It’s super-hard to win when your opponent doesn’t play by the rules, indeed, doesn’t even care about rules. Which is why we need to stop fighting our kids and start writing those rules together.
Like the whole of parenting, we get better at managing this with practise. We can’t expect to be a calm genius at managing our children’s horrible adolescent behaviour just because we went down that road with a toddler / preschooler / young kid. Parenting is the gift that keeps on giving, after all. It will take some time to find your groove, but here are some ways to go high when they go low.
How to go high when your kid goes low
1. Don’t give them what they want
When your kid is ranting a centimetre from your face, it is way too easy to hit crazed-parenting mode way too early. They are being rude, aggressive, and at that distance you can tell they haven’t brushed their teeth properly in weeks, which makes you madder than a cut snake.
They are looking for a fight and they are expecting you to bring it. So, don’t bring it.
Simply say, in as calm and gentle a voice as you can, “We will talk about this when you have calmed down,” then leave the room. They will follow you, of course. Adolescents are not easy to shake, but you’ll get there. Go somewhere where you can firmly shut and lock the door.
No, you are not ignoring your kid. Yes, you are ignoring their behaviour. Point this out to them from behind the locked door.
This might help too: A quick guide to managing tantrums in older kids
2. Remind them you are human
Whenever my kids start abusing me in that special way that kids save just for their parents, I like to remind them that I’m just another person.
“Would you talk to your teacher in this way?”
“Would you talk to your friend like this?”
The answer is, we hope, no. They wouldn’t, so they shouldn’t. Just say: “How about you say that again in a tone that you would use with your school principal?”
3. Zoom out
The “flare ups” we experience with our kids are just that: little bushfires that are intense where we are, but non-existent everywhere else.
That’s why it pays to remind yourself to “zoom out” and see the bigger picture.
Why is your child behaving like this? What else is happening in their life right now? What can you do to help?
These are questions we should be asking our kids, if not in the moment (because god knows, you will just be “meddling” in the moment), but soon after. Parent the bigger picture.
4. Ask and receive
We have a wonderful resource at our disposal when parenting older kids – the kids themselves.
While they may not yet have the tools of perspective and reflection at their own disposal, we can help them get there by asking questions, listening and guiding.
The most useful sentence we can utter as parents is simply, “Talk to me.”
Tell me what’s wrong, let’s work through this together, let me help you figure things out.
5. Don’t be the definition of insanity
There’s no avoiding the feeling of deja vu when parenting, but if you find yourself having the exact same conversation over and over again without pause, you might want to check yourself. Clearly, your strategy – whatever it may be – isn’t working.
More on this here: 5 techniques I’m using to stop criticising my kids
We do need to repeat many life principles before they get it, but months and months (let alone years) of repetition when your kid is 7+ should not be necessary. So, try a different approach.
The best way to do this is to ask your kid what they suggest.
How do you go high when your kid goes low?
Feature image by Ksenia Makagonova; stoop by Laura Thonne; binoculars by Jose Ros Photo