Dealing with frenemies was hard enough the first time around, but here we are, going through it all over again with our kids. There’s something so confronting about a mean friend and it’s certainly one of life’s more treacherous waters to have to learn to navigate.
As I guide my own kids to healthy friendships I’m often struck by just how mean kids can be. I guess it’s what happens when you take hormones, insecurity, competitiveness, jealousy and FOMO and stir it all up in a school playground. It’s a horrible mix and deeply unsettling to be treated so callously by people who are “supposed to be my friend” (how often have you heard your kid utter that immortal line?).
It’s no wonder that mean friendship issues can make our kids feel incredibly unhappy and unsafe at school.
Worse, toxic friendships can feed adolescent insecurities, making our kids doubt themselves down to their very core.
My own frenemies triangle
I get it. I was caught in a vicious circle of hot and cold friendship in Year 4/5. The broken eggshells of friendships. Never quite sure where you stood, never confident that you were liked, always bending over backwards to please.
Eventually, I came to my senses and started quietly moving into other friendship groups. The retaliation from the frenemies was swift and brutal. For weeks I endured bullying, both physical and emotional, and social isolation. Fortunately, by then I was convinced that there was something wrong with them, not me. So I endured the battering like an 11-year-old trouper and eventually they grew tired of getting no response. Presumably they went back to needling each other instead.
Of course, like 99.99% of people on the planet, the two girls I hung out with who turned out to be such horrible frenemies, were actually not horrendous people. Most of the time, they were fun and kind and charming. The rest of the time, they were caught up in the kind of power play that turns even the nicest adolescent into a Regina George.
What makes frenemies
Why is it so hard for friends to just be… friendly? All the time? It’s natural for every friendship to have little skirmishes and ebbs and flows.
We are all just human, and no one is more human than an adolescent.
Yo-yo friendship are not healthy (friends one day, dropped for some trivial reason the next, back to being friends the day after that), but getting irritated by something a friend does or doesn’t do is going to happen from time to time.
The key is understanding whether your child feels comfortable discussing these irritations, or not. Does she or he worry that the friendship would be over if they raised their concerns? If they are constantly walking on eggshells, worrying about pleasing the friend, the power balance is not equal and there’s a fair chance this friendship is heading for frenemies territory.
“We can think of a frenemy as someone in your world who has insulted and betrayed you,” says psychologist and author Dr Glenn Geher writing for Psychology Today. “Someone you don’t trust. Someone who has engaged in actions that made you angry, you did not feel were forgivable, [or] made you think about revenge.”
In other words, a friend who has broken your trust along the way, but who you still want to be friends with for any number of reasons. “This could be because this person is part of your broader social circle,” says Geher. “Cutting this person out explicitly as a friend could be too socially risky for you.”
The need to belong
Looking at it like that, we can see how our kids get caught up in frenemy relationships. Adolescents are still learning how to to be assertive and stand up for themselves. Most are also cripplingly worried about belonging to their peer group, hence their propensity to just ‘go with the flow’. Add to that the fact that this kind of mean behaviour in most kids is unpredictable – usually they are perfectly lovely, it’s only when they get a sniff of power that they go rogue.
Most kids will perceive (and rightly so) that calling out someone for mean behaviour might get them ostracised from the group. Kids instinctively know that ‘mean kids’ – ie, the kids who need to control the power in a group – are likely to do whatever it takes to stay in power. They can be very:
Hence, most kids are very reluctant to stand up for themselves in the way the adults in their life might like them to. No one want to poke the lion.
Here’s what you can suggest they do instead.
How to deal with frenemies
1. Understand what good friendship is
The most important thing is that kids understand what a good friendship feels like. That way, they’ll be able to identify their frenemies and hopefully rely on their true friends to see them through.
Friendship is supposed to lift you up, not put you down.
Friends are kind and go out of their way to make each other feel happy and secure.
Friends are loyal and stick together – even when they might not even agree with each other, they still have each other’s backs.
Friends are trustworthy – they do what they say they will do it and you can rely on them to keep a secret.
Friends make you feel valued and interesting – they bring out your best.
Friends are fun to be around – you do good stuff together and come up with new ideas.
Friends fight fair and apologise or forgive when things go wrong.
2. Reassure and rebuild
Remind your child that relationship problems are part of life. It isn’t necessarily something they are doing, or not doing. This is an excellent opportunity to pile on the positives – all the people that love them dearly, everything you love about them, everything they do well, all the times they’ve made a little extra effort that paid off. A little reminder that one person does not define us in the world.
It’s also a good opportunity to remind them that even though this friend is being mean, they also have lots of great qualities and have been kind in the past. Not to dismiss the current behaviour, but to reinforce that people are not black and white. We all do questionable things from time to time.
3. Quietly stand up for themselves
Your child might not feel like they can go against their group by calling out the friend who is making them feel bad. But what they can do is not ‘go along with it’. Let them know that they don’t have to laugh along or shrug it off.
No one should ever have to put up with someone being nasty.
Instead, they can show with their body language that they aren’t happy with the situation. Placing hands on hips works well. They can then try to change the subject or distract the group by pointing out something else to talk about. If that doesn’t work, they should learn to walk away. They can do this in a non-confrontational way by just saying they need to go get something from their locker, or to see a teacher. If they haven’t got another friend to go and sit with, they can always go to the school library and hang out there. The safe haven of kids for generations.
4. Talk to the friend in private
It’s important to encourage your child to stand up for themselves by having a word to their friend about how they make them feel. It’s a good idea to have this talk when they are away from the rest of the group. Some kids will be confident doing this, others less so. A lot depends on the kind of friendship you have with the frenemy in the first place. If they are able to do so, a quiet word with friend away from the rest of the group may be enough to stop their mean behaviour.
A good way to start such a conversation is by using one specific example of a time the friend made them feel bad. “When you said X, I felt really left out and hurt. I’d rather you didn’t say things like that.” Remind your child not to leap in with broad generalisations (“you always” and “you never” are classics), as they will most likely make the friend feel cornered. And you don’t want to corner the lion.
5. Expand the friendship circle
It always helps to have somewhere to go to when the frenemies are circling. It’s good for any kid to have friends in different groups. Encourage your kid to grow other friendships by spending time with a new group, inviting different kids over to hang out, or sitting with a new friend in class.
It doesn’t mean they are ‘moving on’ or won’t be friends with their usual group of friends (most kids will most definitely not be open to that). It does mean that they have options when they are not comfortable with their main group. With a bit of luck, the new friends being good friends might quietly persuade your child to move on with them.
6. Don’t read, just block
If the mean behaviour is happening online – in chat groups, on TikTok or Instagram DMs, etc – then encourage your kid to (a) stop reading the meanness and (b) block or unfriend if necessary.
Just because someone wants to tell you something, doesn’t mean you are obliged to listen.
They can always go and refriend when things calm down (chances are you won’t be able to talk them out of that one!). If they receive any messages that are abusive, they need to save or snapshot them to keep a record. Sadly , you just never know what’s coming up next when it comes to toxic friends…
Every kid needs a teacher at school that they can trust implicitly.
It might be their year adviser, own teacher or sports teacher. Or it might be someone they’ve only heard about but feel like they can respect. Talk to your child about having a teacher like that up their sleeve for trying times.
When they feel cornered by their frenemies or just fed up with the daily battle that the playground can sometimes be, it’s good to know they’ve got a safe place to run to. They can discuss with their chosen teacher what a good strategy would be to manage the friendship.
8. Keep them talking
‘Mean’ behaviour can very easily tip into bullying territory if left unchecked. And no one has as much ammo for bullying like an ex-best friend. Keep an eye on your child and make sure you keep the communication line open. They might not see the pattern at the time, but you’ll be able to monitor their behaviour and ensure that they are taking care of themselves.
Mean friends are very exhausting to deal with on an ongoing basis. Even the most resilient child can be worn down and start to doubt themselves very quickly. If your child finds it hard to talk to you, keep trying and never give up. You can also make sure they know the details of a service like Kids Helpline – they might find it easier to confide in a trusted stranger.
Did you have a frenemy or frenemies when you were growing up?
While these days I’m a total expert in how to make porridge (so do read on 😊), breakfast and I have never been friendly. During school, I was the kid who sprinkled a little bit of Weetbix into a cereal bowl, swished around a splash of milk and left the lot in the sink for mum to find. Breakfast done, baby.
As I’ve gotten older and (apparently) more mature, I can’t escape the fact that every nutritionist on the planet agrees that breakfast is the most important meal of the day. So, I try to eat something most mornings and a mushroom omelette, yoghurt and muesli or porridge will all see me happily past lunch if I let them.
Ah, porridge. Maybe breakfast and I are friends after all. It’s low-fat, high-protein, wholegrain, low-GI and it fills you up in a most satisfying way for ages. I adore my bowl of creamy, dreamy porridge on a wintry morning and can’t imagine why everyone doesn’t feel the same way. The trick is to make it from scratch, don’t even think about those little wax paper packets filled with a crumbled something called Maize Maltodextrin. Here’s how to make ‘real’ porridge, as taught to me by my Dad.
To make porridge, all you need are:
Loving attention and maybe a little salt
To get the creamiest porridge, start with good old plain oats. You can pick up a giant bag of generic oats that will pretty-much last you all winter for under $5. If you’re feeling particularly keen, make your porridge with steel-cut oats. It will take approximately 47 years, but the resulting creamy mix is totally worth it.
The ratio of oats to water is one part oats to two parts liquid (I add an extra little splash as I like my porridge a little runnier). I cook mine with just water, but you can do half water/half milk if you prefer. I’ve never seen the need, to be honest. The secret to creamy oats isn’t milk, it’s stirring.
Turning oats into porridge
Put a small saucepan on the stove. Put your oats in, put your liquid in and stir until you reach boiling point. Then immediately drop the temperature right down and simmer the oats for at least ten minutes. Around the half-way mark is the time to add a generous pinch or two of salt to taste. Stir whenever you remember – the more you stir, the creamier your porridge and the less the porridge sticks to the bottom of your saucepan…
If you want to reduce your cooking time, you can soak the oats overnight in equal parts water and add the last half of your liquid when you get the soaked oats into your saucepan for cooking. This method requires cooking for only 5 minutes or so, but keep the stirring going.
Serving the porridge
Once looking creamy and thick (the porridge starts to stick to your stirring spoon), remove the porridge from the heat, put a lid on the top of the saucepan and leave the porridge to sit. Besides cooling down to eating point, this allows the flavour of the oats to develop into something extra special. When you’re ready, put your porridge into a serving bowl, sprinkle with a little brown sugar to taste and add a splash of milk.
Top with sultanas, craisins or chopped dried apricots or dates
Add a drizzle of honey
Drop in a bit of jam to swirl around
Stir through some seeds like pepitas, sunflower, poppy, flax or sesame – or all of the above
Combine half porridge with half cooked quinoa for a nutty mix.
If you get stuck
If your porridge very rudely gets stuck to the bottom of your saucepan (remember to stir and stir and stir), all you need to do is cool the pan, pour in enough vinegar to cover the base, leave for a goodly amount of time and… wipe clean.
We love Netflix at our place. In fact, we haven’t been able to get standard TV reception since a 2018 hailstorm took down our antennae, so it’s pretty much Netflix or bust. Actually, we can stream tele via Fetch, so I still get my SBS Food binge in whenever I can (current obsession: Gourmet Farmer), but Netflix is my go-to. Here are the shows I’ve been totally obsessed with over the past couple of years. And a list recommended by friends of what I’ll be watching soonest.
If you haven’t yet discovered the genius that is After Life on Netflix, cancel your Sunday plans and hit play. Ricky Gervais captures the beauty of pathos like no other and his story about a widowed Tony trying to find his way back to life after losing his wife is pure heart. Tony contemplates suicide, but instead decides to live long enough to punish the world for his wife’s death by saying and doing whatever he wants. The result is somehow acerbic and gentle and extraordinary. I didn’t think I could love anything as much as I loved season one, but season two somehow topped it. Bravo!
This is just a ripplingly good yarn, superbly acted by my girl Laura Linney (who I’ve adored since Tales of the City back in the day) and Jason Bateman (who is always so good). Marty Byrde is an unassuming financial planner who happens to be laundering money for a Mexican drug cartel. He flees to the Ozarks with his family – wife Wendy and teen kids Charlotte and Jonah – but instead of ditching the cartel, he only manages to get sucked in more and more deeply. Watching Marty and Wendy use their brains to wiggle out of tricky situations is half the fun. The characters they meet are equally fabulous (redneck dand proud Ruth and psycho granny Darlene are two faves).
I literally cried when I heard that season 7 was going to be the final season. I loved this show from the very first episode of season one – it’s one of my all-time favourite Netflix shows to binge. Sure, I couldn’t stand Piper either (the lead character in the first two series, she quietly falls into a more ensemble role by the third), but the rest of the characters more than made up for it. Across the seven series, the show dips and flat-out plummets occasionally, but overall it’s a tremendous insight into the importance of empathy, forgiveness and meeting people where they are in life without judgment.
Original, unpredictable, memorable – it’s basically f***ing brilliant. Quiet, outcast James, who is secretly a wannabe serial killer, and mouthy Alyssa, who is every angsty, angry teen, head off on a road trip to find Alyssa’s dad who abandoned her as a child. They get caught up in a series of ultra-violent events that bring them both crashing down to earth in a big way. Season 1 was brilliant, season 2 delivered in spades as well. Highly recommended.
This show is an incredible insight into what it means to try to live your life differently to how others’ perceive you should live it. It’s the story of Esther (the remarkable Shira Haas), an Hasidic Jewish woman who flees from her arranged marriage and her culture in New York’s Williamsburg to start a new life in Germany. Esther’s courage, pride and determination is as breathtaking as her story is fascinating. The series is based on Deborah Feldman’s 2012 autobiography Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection of My Hasidic Roots.
This show looks so good you could eat it for dessert, but it’s not only pretty. It brings on the Fifties Hollywood glamour to tell a darker tale of orgies, sexism and racism. The story centres around Jack Castello (dishy David Corenswet from The Politician – see above), a married aspiring actor who finds himself working as a gigolo at a garage station run by the fantabulous Ernie (’80s fave Dylan McDermott). He, ahem, services Avis Amberg (Patti LuPone), who turns out to be the wife of a big studio owner. Soon Jack is starring in a fresh, ground-breaking movie written by charming gay black screenwriter Archie Coleman. My favourite story Archie’s (especially when he falls in love with a fictionalised Rock Hudson), but there are plenty to love in this character-driven piece. It’s hard to do it justice here, so please just watch and enjoy the ride.
Another Ryan Murphy original (creator of Glee and also Hollywood – above) that’s entirely watchable, if not a bit hit and miss overall. It starts so strong, but seems to lose it mid-way and then by the end you’re really not sure what’s going on or perhaps even care. That said, it has made my list because it’s just so darn clever. The acting, especially by Ben Platt, Theo Germaine and, dare I say it, Gwyneth. Wealthy high school student Payton Hobart ducks and weaves his way through cut-throat Saint Sebastian High School politics in an effort to kick start his dream to become POTUS. The politics are ruthless, as is Murphy’s sharp ear for dialogue and character.
There is so much going on in this sharp sitcom-satire-mockumentary-show-within-a-show gem. Real-life screenwriter Kenya Barris plays an fictionalised version of himself as the creator of new Netflix-backed show Black-ish. Barris has six children and wife, Joya (my very favourite Rashida Jones), who he seemingly adores and endures in equal measure. He lives a rich, privileged life – witness that #blackAF is purportedly a documentary by the Barris’ cool and calm 17-year-old daughter, Drea (Iman Benson) as her university audition piece, but Barris funded a professional camera crew to add polish to the teenager’s work. The show sends up regular POC sitcoms (eg. Cosby, Fresh Prince, Family Reunion) while at the same time sending some spot-on political messages (episode one: the “white gaze”). I lapped up the entire thing in two nights.
“I always get your worst and I’m tired of it,” says Jean, the single mother of teenage Otis. And right there is why I adore this show. The relationships between parents and teens, teens and their friends and teens and the world are utterly spot on. Jean is a sex therapist and socially awkward, nerdy Otis decides to earn a bit of cash at school by offering sex advice to fellow classmates. The results are predictably hilarious, but also sensitive and richly explored. Otis is accompanied by cool friends Maeve, who’s living solo in a caravan and trying her best to get a good education, and Eric, his flamboyant bestie who doesn’t bother even trying to fit in. You’ll be hooked by ep one.
I started watching Orphan Black late one Saturday night and did nothing else for the entire week until it was done. After Sarah witnesses the suicide of a girl on her train platform, she’s stunned to discover that she looks exactly like her. Down and out Sarah decides to assume the dead doppelganger’s identity, which smashes her into a strange conspiracy that will keep you on the edge of your Jason recliner. I can’t tell you any more than that without giving the game away, but watch the first couple of episodes and see if you become just as hooked as I was.
I did lose interest in this one after a few seasons, but really loved the three I watched. It’s got a stellar cast, intelligent scripting and bucket loads of charm. It’s also got a dark heart in a very fluffy exterior. While enjoying the sweet shenanigans as Eleanor tries to figure out how to stay in deaths’ the good place’ after she is mistakenly assigned there, you’ll also explore deeper themes like what it means to be ‘good’ or ‘bad’ and the importance of connecting with others in a way that makes you both feel good.
This show about a trio of mums who rob a convenience store is a ripper. It could be that we all fall half in love with Christina Hendricks all over again (Mad Men, anyone?) – she plays Beth, a conscientious suburban mum, who is dragged into a life of crime by her single mum sister Annie. You’ll totally want to be BFFs with unconventional, unstable Annie and bring their kind-hearted friend Ruby (played by the show’s heart and soul Retta) into your gang. Suspend all sense of reality and just go with the laughs and the twists – it’s worth it.
A great one to watch with this kids, I Am Not Okay With This follows anxious 17-year-old Sydney Novak (Sophia Lillis, the uber-talented kid out of Sharp Objects) as she navigates high school awkwardness and drama. So far, same old, but here’s the thing: Syd has telekinetic powers, a talent she tries desperately to keep from her fellow schoolmates. “It almost always comes out when I’m angry. Or embarrassed. Or scared,” she explains, basically nailing the unpredictability that is regular adolescent emotions, but with moving things. This unique and highly-watchable show is based on a graphic novel by Charles Forsman, the same genius who penned the graphic novel that The End of the F***ing World is based on.
Very hard to watch at times, but mandatory viewing regardless. This series comes with a trigger warning about rape, violence and being doubted when you know your truth. Toni Collette, Merritt Wever, and Kaitlyn Dever are superb as they tell the story of a series of rapes that happened in the mid-noughts in Colorado and Washington. Collette plays the hard-nosed veteran detective, Wever the eager newbie, and Dever Marie, the victim of the first assault. It’s a gritty recount that never veers into melodrama or trickery. It’s a plainly told story that is easy to look away from, but impossible to erase.
Staying with the crime capers here, Prison Break is excellent viewing for the first few seasons. After that, it’s a no from me. The formula works until it doesn’t. I’ve still included it in my list of favourite Netflix shows to binge on, though, because the first couple of seasons were just so darn watchable. Smarty pants Michael Scofield gets jailed for robbing a bank – which he may or may not have purposely done in order to try to get into the prison and spring his brother from death row. If that sounds unbelievable, it is… but watch a few episodes before you judge. The show is so well put together that it’s easy to suspend belief and just go with the flow for the pure entertainment factor.
The seasons are stand-alone and I totally recommend the first season and was less excited about the second. The series is crafted around Detective Harry Ambrose (Bill Pullman, very good), but he’s the only continuity between seasons. Season 1 sees him investigating the curious case of suburban mother Cora (Jessica Biel, also good), who randomly stabbed a stranger to death on an idyllic beach one Sunday. She appears to have had no motive and no memory of having committed this gruesome crime. As Harry pieces together her story, it becomes the TV equivalent of a riveting page turner.
There is some fabulous dialogue in this show, and Christina Applegate is on fire, but I only liked the first season. The second already felt tired. I watched three shows, yawned and never returned. It really felt like they were flogging a dead dude. I’m only including it on my favourite Netflix shows to binge on because gorge you will… on the first season. Let me know what you think of the second!!
On my list: new Netflix shows to binge
These shows were all recommended by friends to get stuck into. I haven’t managed to watch a single moment… yet. Stay tuned!
Can you feel life ramping back up? All it took for us was school and soccer training being back on. Now we’re busy every morning and three nights a week too. Sigh. This is when nutritious, quick dinners are my weapon of choice to fight back against the busy.
I’m not the kind of person who is satisfied with baked beans on toast at the end of the day. I’d love to serve cereal or 2-minute noodles for dinner sometimes, but I’m just not satisfied. I tend to snack the night away after a dinner like that.
I like a proper sit-down meal to make eating an everyday occasion.
That said, I don’t love having to cook every night. It’s heartbreaking some days, isn’t it?! I can wake up some mornings and already be dreading having to cook dinner after a busy day.
This is when these quick dinner recipes come into their own. They are all truly satisfying to eat, but super-fast to put together. You might notice an absence of slow cooker meals here – I’ve left them out on purpose. It’s not that I don’t love a slow cooker for a curry or a casserole, but on so many days you can be out for 10 hours or more. For me, that’s way too much cooking in the slow cooker, even on low. So, I don’t ever use it on days like that.
Instead, I make one of these quick dinners and all is well in the world. Hope you find a few new favourites here too.
This one is one the table in 20 minutes. If I know I’m going to be especially busy in the evening, I’ll cook the rice in the morning and leave it in the fridge, ready to go. Then this dish takes 10 minutes, tops.
Nagi at Recipe Tin Eats has the best recipes and her frittata works perfectly every time. Frittatas are so good for quick dinners because you can basically make them from whatever you have in the fridge. Of course, one of those things in the fridge needs to be eggs…
I would eat this every night for dinner if I could. It’s actually traditionally a breakfast dish, and it sure is satisfying at that time of the day as well. I really like this shakshuka recipe from Cookie + Kate. A tip for evenings when you’re out and about – you can get the tomato base done well in advance, then just reheat and crack in your eggs when you arrive home.
Oyakodon is faster to to make than it takes rice to cook – so it takes the 15 minutes rice takes using the absorption method. It’s full of satisfying Japanese flavours and if you serve it with a big pile of greens, it’s a well-rounded meal. Slice your chicken nice and thin so it cooks evenly.
Keeping a bunch of stuff in the fridge to make Buddha bowls like this one from Lauren Caris Cooks makes any evening easy. We keep cooked quinoa, cold roasted vegetables like sweet potato, beetroot and carrot, shredded red cabbage, homemade falafels, sauerkraut, poached chicken and a couple of good homemade dressings or dips on hand, ready to go. I generally make something like this for lunch, but it’s basically the king of quick dinners as well. The tahini dressing in Lauren’s recipe is sensational.
I love being part of a big Italian family via my husband – if you’ve seen me, you will know I’m not Italian myself :). One of the best things about it is the foooood. Even when making quick dinners, the Italians know how to bring out the flavour in simple ingredients. Like this pasta and chickpea dish from Smitten Kitchen. I urge you to rustle this 20 minute recipe up this week!
This beef, honey-glazed veg and soba noodle bowl is an absolute winner from Taste. Bowl food is exactly how we like to eat. There are a lot of ingredients, but they all go in together so you should be able to crank this delightful dish out in about 25 minutes.
No surprise that Sonia’s quesadillas are always a big hit with the kids. They’re a big hit with me too because the kids basically make their own. We always make extra to pack cold in tomorrow’s lunchboxes.
A yummy vegan casserole that is ready to eat in 10 minutes. Which is the beauty of vegan eating – you don’t need long cooking times. Lauren from Lauren Caris Cooks packs delicious, smoky flavour into this beany dish. It’s perfect served with naan or pita for scooping, or I like it served on top of plain steamed carrots. Whatever you fancy!
I adore Sneh from Cook Republic – her recipes, her photography, her philosophy. You will love her quick and easy red lentil dal recipe and it will give you a little taste of what Sneh is all about. I often make this dish in the morning and keep it in the fridge to reheat when we get home in the evening. I think it tastes even better that way!
These noodles are one of my stand-by quick dinners. As long as you’ve got noodles, shallots and garlic (which I substitute for the garlic chives in the recipe, because whoever has garlic chives just hanging around?), you’ve got a meal in around 20 minutes. You’ll also need quite a few Chinese condiments, but once you’ve bought them in, you’ll find yourself making dishes like this as often as you can.
There are shortcuts galore in Brooke Lark’s delicious chilli, but no matter.Cook together four simple ingredients, add any toppings you like and you’re done. We serve this chilli with chopped tomatoes, chopped capsicum, lettuce cups and tortilla shells.
Quick dinners that use a tin of tuna are right up there with my favourites. Quick and cheap to make! This lemon and asparagus tuna pasta is full of new flavours. It makes such an awesome change from the standard red-sauce pasta that we so often make. It will take you less than 20 minutes to make.
Nagi does it again! You can have this Thai basil chicken by Recipe Tin Eats on the table in 15 minutes. It’s truly mouth-watering and just the kind of reward you want at the end of a long day. I serve it up with green beans and peas that I simply nuke in the microwave to keep everything speedy.
It pays to have a jar of pesto in the fridge, ready to go. Then it’s just a matter of cooking the pasta and stirring it through. Everyone in our family loves a bowl of pesto pasta and I am always amused that they think it’s such a treat. It literally takes five minutes to make.
Another fantastic recipe from Cook Republic. This one is super-fast, being ready in under 25 minutes from start to eating. Paneer is a type of cottage cheese that you can get at most supermarkets. It’s truly delicious and adds a crispy depth to this veggie rice dish. Also, I am totally crushing on Sneh’s beautiful bowls up there!!!
If you make any of these delicious meals, let us know!
Please share a link to your favourite quick dinners in the comments below.
My daughter can’t stop doing TikTok moves. From breakfast until bedtime, she’s on the move. Little sequences from Renegade, Say So, and Number One Baby. We’ve renamed it ‘tic tok’ because I swear it looks like she’s got some strange physical tics. All the twitching and arm swinging and pelvic thrusting… shudder.
When we finally relented and let her get TikTok at the start of high school, I thought it would be the privacy concerns that would stress me out. Instead it’s the constant ticking. She does. not. stop.
Don’t get me wrong, I love seeing her being active and she clearly loves doing the dances. Really, really loves doing the dances. A lot.
Dance monkey dance
If you haven’t got your own TikTokker tic tocking away, let me show you what I mean.
It’s a good 10 minutes of the same dance over and over but it’s worth every moment for the Irish accents, off-the-wall family and general mayhem. Incidentally, if you haven’t seen Derry (the Dad) trying to get a bat out of the kitchen, you haven’t lived. This guy is pure comic genius. I could watch this family all day long.
There’s no stopping us
Ahem, unlike the constant dancing of my kid. I’m about to dance her completely out of the stadium if she doesn’t stop. The words ‘Mum, I’ve learned a new TikTok dance!!’ are not music to my ears, and certainly not to my eyes. When will the TikTok fad be over? When will it stop? Please make it stop! Tik, tik, tik, tik…
The completely unbelievable thing is that my girl does not upload her dancing to TikTok. She’s only on there for the moves, she doesn’t upload. So all the jigging, swinging, thrusting, jumping, swiping is just for us. Which reminds me… I need to be a nicer audience. At least she’s being active, right?
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